Meet Our Team

Kimber Graves, TBRI® Practitioner

Founder and Owner, Behind the Behavior Coaching, LLC

Kimber Graves brings together faith, research, and lived experience to help foster, adoptive, and kinship caregivers understand what is really happening behind challenging behaviors. She is a graduate of Hendrix College, and is a TBRI® Practitioner with more than two decades of experience in child welfare. She has worked as an adoption specialist for a global social services agency, as a telehealth parent coach, and as a trauma educator in churches, schools and community organizations.

As an adoptive parent herself, Kimber’s passion is deeply personal. She is an avid researcher, writer, and communicator who is committed to equipping families and communities with both practical tools and hope. Kimber has written for national publications, has been a guest on foster and adoption focused podcasts, and has spoken at national and regional conferences, churches, and seminars. At the heart of her work is a desire to offer education, empathy, and steady support to families who are hurting.

Kimber has been married to her husband, Scott, since 1992. They are the proud parents of three grown children, two of whom were adopted internationally, along with a bonus daughter and son through marriage, and two grandchildren.

Ethan Graves, TBRI® Practitioner

MDiv, PhD Candidate

Ethan brings a thoughtful blend of theological training, pastoral leadership, and trauma-informed care to his work with families and leaders. He holds bachelor’s and master’s degrees in Biblical Studies from The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary and is a TBRI® Practitioner. Ethan is currently pursuing a PhD in Christian Leadership at Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, where his dissertation focuses on how Christian leaders can guide individuals who have experienced complex trauma through the difficulties of change.

As the father of a child on the autism spectrum, Ethan has devoted significant study and attention to best practices for supporting neurodivergent children and their families. His personal experience informs his compassionate, practical approach to care.

Ethan serves as the Senior Pastor of Crawford Road Baptist Church in Phenix City, Alabama, and has previously pastored churches in Indiana, Texas, and New Jersey. He and his wife, Nicole, have two children. When he finds a spare moment, Ethan enjoys making barbeque in his backyard or figuring out another unique way to make the “perfect” cup of coffee.

Frequently Asked Questions

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  • Parent coaching is designed to help adoptive, foster, and kinship caregivers parenting children who have experienced trauma or attachment disruptions. We also work with parents of children on the autism spectrum to maximize your ability to help your child develop through everyday interactions.

  • Different from therapy, counseling, or parenting classes, parent coaching partners with parents to focus on relationships, not just behavior. We give caregivers directive guidance and consider the unique strengths and challenges of each specific child and family. Parents learn new ways to connect with and respond to their child – as children feel seen, heard, and understood, their needs are met and behaviors decrease.

  • We’ll spend the first 10-15 minutes talking about what is going well, what is not, and what your weekly goals are. The next 30 – 40 minutes will be focused on learning and helping you understand how to apply new tools as you interact with your child. Our last 5 – 10 minutes will be a time to wrap up and pray together. Within 24 hours after a coaching session, you will receive an email with a review of what we covered, resources, and actionable items for the next week.

  • Parent coaching is geared only to the parents/caregivers, not to children or youth. This model of care directly supports and encourages parents. It also empowers caregivers to share candidly about their daily struggles and together with their Parent Coach, to create an actionable plan to move your family forward toward healing.

  • Parent Coaching is not mental health therapy. Mental health services are appropriate when behavior or emotional distress reach a clinical level. Parent coaching helps parents and caregivers whose parenting strategies leave them feeling stuck, overwhelmed, confused, and powerless. For many, parent coaching provides the skills and support needed to help your child heal. For others, parent coaching is a helpful addition to mental health services.

  • A 60-minute coaching session costs $100 and includes a weekly email that contains a summary of what was covered, resources, and 1-5 actionable items.

  • We do not accept insurance at this time.

  • Sessions are held through secure video conference, so if you have internet, you can work with me from anywhere!

  • A variety of appointment times are available. Please contact us for more details.  

  • Yes, not only are couples encouraged to participate together, it is ideal! We can coach one or both parents.

  • Most families prefer to meet on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. Some clients’ coaching needs are met within a few sessions, while others may require 12+ months. Each family will determine with the parent coach how many sessions are needed.